Living and laughing with a disability - cerebral palsy; ordinary life, extraordinary circumstances.
Friday, October 19, 2007
Handicapable: Touchless Keyboard Lets Disabled People Type With Their Heads
Pretty cool....but spendy!
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Disabled on Segways?
What's wrong with scooters? I can't stand that long...
Saturday, October 13, 2007
Very sad...
Laurie Recht, disabled mother, with a 14 year old daughter, Rebecca Recht, who had cerebral palsy, had a tough life.
Public school was hard for Rebecca. Kids teased and bullied her. Laurie pulled Rebecca out of public school and got her into private school.
Peter Yarrow of Peter, Paul and Mary fame, came twice to hold benefit concerts to help with Laurie and Rebecca's expenses.
It wasn't just the private school. Rebecca was having other medical problems that doctor's were trying to diagnose.
Laurie was trying to make ends meet with her disability check, selling whatever she could on craigslist, and trying to start a online business.
Jodie and I were talking about this story. It hits home with us in so many ways.
We attended Holladay Center together as kids. In the 60's and 70's it was a school for the disabled in Portland. Jodie and I remember it fondly as a safe place where we received specialized attention--physical therapy, 0ccupational therapy, speech therapy. I was a "pusher" when we went on field trips because I could help push the wheelchairs.
We were eventually maintstreamed. I went to Beaverton schools; Jodie went to Portland schools. My mainstreaming experience was generally positive. My main accommodation was a typewriter that followed me wherever I went.
Jodie's mainstreaming experience in Portland Public Schools was bad. Stairs, no elevators or ramps. One teacher did not like the sound her crutches made. One school made Jodie sit in the counselor's office for the entire year because they could not (would not?) stop other kids from knocking her down and bullying her.
Jodie and I feel for the struggle that Rebecca went through in public school.
Here's a story about a television executive who sued and won a lawsuit requiring New York to pay for his son's special education at a private school because the public school was unable to provide it.
Laurie, a single mother with the responsibility of raising a daughter. Trying to find a job as a disabled person is not easy. I had a college degree when I went looking for work, but it was not enough. I had to volunteer as a way to prove myself. Making money off the internet, as Laurie was trying to do --- it sounds easy, but it's not.
Jodie and I have the love and support of family. We have been blessed with faith in God.
I wish Laurie and Rebecca were still alive. I wish they had found the hope and support to keep going.
Thursday, October 04, 2007
Disabled smoke more?
The Associated Press: People With Disabilities Smoke More
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
Blogging About Disabilities
Blogging About Disabilities « Lorelle on WordPress
Blogs for suggested reading:
- Fang World - The secret diary of a disabled blogger in the early 21st century
- Disabilities Studies Blog from Temple University
- High on Hope - Blog for helping to improve the health of needy people
- Jeff Space - Blog on living with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, or DMD
- Erik’s Multiple Sclerosis Blog
- Did I Miss Something - Blog about a differently-abled woman
- Disabilities Unlimited
- Schizophrenia Daily News Blog
- The Gimp Parade
- Rolling Rains Report - Dialogue on Travel, Disability, and Universal Design
- Broken Clay Journal - Living with Multiple Sclerosis
- ADHD and Me
- Gimp Eye for the Clueless Guy
- Adventures in Autism
Disability is not for sissies...
Pattaya City News - Latest News Story
Saturday, September 29, 2007
Message board for disabled parents
I found information about families with one disabled and one able bodied parent. I found horror stories about ladies with Jodie's brand of cerebral palsy who had a child and the birth event caused them to be paralyzed.
I stopped searching the boards.
Here is a new message board from Ouch! that looks good:
BBC - MESSAGE BOARDS - Ouch! - Ouch! Parents
Jodie and I did go to one occupational therapy session prior to E's birth. I was surprised that most of the session was focused on me, the dad. Jodie and both have cerebral palsy, but my arms and hands are more affected. The main thing I remember from the session was handling a 2 liter bottle of water in a sling, simulating what it would be like to handle a baby.
Reality turned out to be much different. I never did carry Eric. We used a stroller inside the house to get Eric wherever we needed to. Jodie did the major handling of Eric when he was a baby, but I did everything I could to support her. I would distract him with a rattle when Jodie had to change his diapers. I crawled with him on the floor. I drove to the store to get more formula and Pampers. I was a dad.
Now we talk politics and history. I pick him up from football practice, basketball practice and baseball practice. I never miss a game. I am a dad.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Karen Gaffney
I remember Karen's 2001 swim across the English Channel. No simple feat for anybody. It took grit and determination.
This month Karen took on a new challenge. I am moved that Down Syndrome does not need to be in the headline to make this a story: Local woman makes history with Lake Tahoe swim KATU - Portland, Oregon Local & Regional
A film is in the works. Here is a blog about a film documenting Karen's swim across Lake Tahoe.
And Karen is the president of a self-named foundation "dedicated to championing the journey to full inclusion in families, schools, communities and the workplace for people with Down syndrome or other developmental disabilities."
Karen's newsletter tells about inclusive arts and exercise programs that she is involved in.
I see life and joy in her face. I admire her spirit.
Thank you Karen!
Monday, September 24, 2007
Pet Peeve...
The disabled spot next to the one we were parked in was empty, but parked in the striped area was a Toyota truck.
I really hate when people park in the area between disabled spots. People seem to think that by parking in the striped area that it is less of a wrong than if they parked in the vacant disabled spot.
Oh so WRONG!
The striped off area is where I park our scooters while I am getting the lift up and down. It is where people who use wheelchairs maneuver in and out of their wheelchairs. We use that area to open our doors wider so we can get in and out of our car easier.
I parked my scooter in front of the Toyota. What I did not realize at first was that the Toyota truck was my nephew's! He has not been driving long. He is 15 and had driven to the park with his mom, my sister-in-law. My dear sister-in-law had told my nephew it was okay to park there.
My nephew could tell I was upset, but he and his mom, everybody was laughing it off. That made me madder.
Jodie has had cerebral palsy from birth. He sister should know better than to teach her son that it's okay to park illegally between two disabled parking spots...but she doesn't.
They were laughing about it. More words from me weren't going to make them understand.
It's nice to have a place to vent.
Friday, September 21, 2007
Disabled kids fitting in...
Girls Bask in Their New Destiny: Cheerleaders - washingtonpost.com
I was on the chess team in high school. I was able to go to different schools to play. I was the team president. I could beat beginners, have long drawn out games with mediocre players like myself, and get whipped by good players. Being part of a team was priceless.
These kids and their supporters are champions. God bless them all.
Monday, September 17, 2007
Stop...or we will shoot!
The police had trouble subduing Chasse. He was tasored and beaten in this effort. Chasse had schizophrenia. A positive to come from this is that the police are being better trained to deal with the mentally ill.
I remember visiting a missionary in San Francisco in the mid 80's. The Reagonomics solution to the mentally ill was a one-way bus ticked to San Francisco. I'm not certain how true that was, but I know services to the mentally ill were cut then and have never rebounded.
The mentally ill end up in the hands of the police, and they fill our jails.
I like to listen to Lars Larson at lunch time. I disagree with a lot of what he says, but I enjoy the discussion.
Today I had to turn my radio off. He really bothered me with his ignorance.
Lars put all the blame for Chasse's death on Chasse himself; that he should have stopped when the police told him to; and that his family should have taken better care of him.
Lars went on to say that the police should be told where groups of mentally ill live. He called these places "Loony Bins." I was really shocked!
I was introduced to a guy named Tobin when I was a student at Oregon State University. Tobin was not a student at the university. He had manic depression pretty severely, and Corvallis was a quiet college town for him. He liked to walk great distances. He was into heavy philosophy. I felt like a lightweight intellectually when I was around him.
A couple years after I graduated, I was between jobs. Tobin put the money up for a road trip to California. I drove. He made me mad one night. We had walked the boardwalk in Santa Monica. Some homeless folk offered bong hits and Tobin took a couple. As we were heading back to where we were staying, I was getting onto the Santa Monica Freeway. Tobin got sick and opened the car door. I was soooo mad!
I got married, and then a few years later E was born. I never was real close to Tobin after that trip. I felt guilty.
He moved to Portland, against his mother's wishes. A bigger city, more for Tobin to see and do, but more trouble to get into.
For peole totally unfamiliar with mental illness, a large part of dealing with it is finding the right medication that treats the illness. The tragic part is that the perfect medicine looses its effectiveness as the person's tolerance to it increases.
A few years ago Tobin died. He was walking along I-5 and he stepped in front of a truck I think it was.
Lars must not have a Tobin or a James Chasse in his life. If he did he would see the need for mot mental health services and for more awareness, not just for the police, but for all of us.
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Environmentally friendly bomb?
"Channel One television said the new weapon, nicknamed the "dad of all bombs" is four times more powerful than the U.S. "mother of all bombs."
"The tests have shown that the new air-delivered ordnance is comparable to a nuclear weapon in its efficiency and capability," said Col.-Gen. Alexander Rukshin, a deputy chief of the Russian military's General Staff, said in televised remarks.
Unlike a nuclear weapon, the bomb doesn't hurt the environment, he added."
Sunday, September 09, 2007
Prisons Purge Books on Faith From Libraries - New York Times
Prisons Purge Books on Faith From Libraries - New York Times
“It’s swatting a fly with a sledgehammer,” said Mark Earley, president of Prison Fellowship, a Christian group. “There’s no need to get rid of literally hundreds of thousands of books that are fine simply because you have a problem with an isolated book or piece of literature that presents extremism.”
There is still a lot of religious titles available -- 150 from each of 20 religions. The Bible is still there.
Eight titles from C.S. Lewis are in; all Robert Schuller are out.
150 titles seem generous, but to inmates with years served and years to go it's not.
It is meant to weed out extremist religious material. Prisons evidentally have become a fertile
ground for Muslim extremism.
As with so much with this "War on Terrorism", the liberties of many are being sacraficed in an effort to possibly prevent the evil deeds of a few.
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
Jerry apologizes
The Associated Press: Lewis Drops an Anti-Gay Slur on Telethon
Let's forgive him people!
Monday, September 03, 2007
Jerry Lewis telethon
My admiration for the telethon goes up and down. I think it is a good way to bring disability awareness to people, but I don't like the pity it pleads for.
I remember my mom telling me that as a child I was asked to be on the local part of the Easter Seals telethon. They wanted me to sit in a wheelchair, even though I did not use even a scooter at the time.
It was a show...yanking people's heart strings to get money.
This blog selection is angry about the pity aspect, as well as Jerry referring to people in wheelchairs as being half a person.
And there is the controversy over whether Jerry used the other F word on this year's telethon.
This year's telethon netted more than $3 million over last year's.
This guy claims that muscular dystrophy was cured 15 years ago, and continuation of the telethon is a charade to keep Jerry happy.
The telethon has given birth to an online protest.
I quickly get bored by it. I keep it on because Jodie likes it. She loves Jerry and the whole "Jerry's kids" thing. She always says that the research that is done on behalf muscular dystrophy could eventually lead to cures for conditions like what we have --- cerebral palsy. And, in a weird kind of way, Jerry is a loving earthly father figure on behalf of the disabled --- a Santa Claus of sorts.
Why ruin that?
Saturday, September 01, 2007
P W D
Giving hope to the physically challenged - INQUIRER.net, Philippine News for Filipinos
I have heard the term persons with disability before, but I have never seen the PWD term before. It seems like a clean, descriptive acronym.
Wikipedia defines PWD as persons with disability or Portuguese water dog.
Hmm...
Thursday, August 30, 2007
Ex-soldiers to paraolympic champs?
With inclusion at its heart, London will transform lives - Times Online
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Blade Runner
Zuza Fun » Disabled runner too able
Oscar Pistorius is the guy's name. There is a wikepedia entry on him.
NY times did a good story on him. He does not see himself as disabled, and he has his sights set for the 2008 summer olympics.
"Still, the question persists: Do prosthetic legs simply level the playing field for Pistorius, compensating for his disability, or do they give him an inequitable edge via what some call techno-doping?" --excerpt NY Times
An open letter from Oscar's prostetist.
Oscar is a first class athlete in my book.
Saturday, August 25, 2007
At the Fair
Since getting our scooters in 2002, we have gone to the state fair every year but one.
E likes the rides, Jodie likes to look at the vender booths, I like to look at the animals.
I like the fair, but it seems like a bigger money drain every year we go.
The rides. This year it was 40 tickets for $20. Sounds like a good deal, until you see that most rides require 7 tickets --- that's $3.50 per ride! E likes the tilt-a-whirl and the bumper cars.
In the past I have gone with E on a couple rides. Today I was not feeling like going on rides, but I did go one round with him on the bumper cars. I did not want to be an all out party pooper!
I got into my car alright. I noticed that my knees were up against the small steering wheel. I was not sure how I would do steering, but I managed to get around fine. I use a steering know when I drive our van, so a small wheel with no knob is a challenge. The sterring wheel moved freely, and I was able to one-hand-it by spinning the wheel with my left hand across the top.
I was able to run into E a few times...and he ran into me. We had fun.
The ride was over. Everybody was out of their cars and and off the floor. I was stuck in my car. One of the young guys running the ride came over and asked if I needed a hand.
Such a disabled moment!
Of coarse I needed a hand, but his hand was not going to get me out of the car. E came back. Even though he's not real big, I feel more security with him because he knows the kind of help I need. After some struggle, I was able to unfold my legs, stand up, lift my legs up and out of the car, and get out.
My pride takes a dive again...but I had fun with my son on a ride.
We then went to the vendors. We started outside. The outside vendors were not crowded. E had some money to spend and it was burning a hole in his pocket! He bought a new wallet to hold all of it.
I saw a pillow I liked, one that would provide neck support. Jodie asked "How much?"....$99....No thank you!
Jodie likes to look at everything...she does not buy a lot.
We then went to the vendors inside this large hall. I like to see what they have in there and all the cool demonstrations, but I hate the crowds! Scooters, wheelchairs, strollers and people everywhere! People stopping to look at stuff, trying to get around them, while people are trying to get around us. Some of the aisles are really narrow, and some people's patience is really short.
E wanted to buy wood carved tank. It was beautiful...but costly No E. "But!" No, no and no! Being a parent is so hard sometimes! A little later, we came across a "String Thing"...pretty cool! We let Eric get one. It cost much less than the wooden tank.
I saw a rubber broom that looked really cool. Eric said we could use it for the van...well, we could....but I did not want to party with another twenty.
We then went for some food. Deep fried Snickers or Twinkies anyone? I almost tried, but I chickened out.
We made the trip through the barns to see the cows, horses, sheeps and goats. We saw a dog show. We heard a guy singing everything from old rockn'roll to country. If you have never heard The Big One, you need too. Confederate Railroad does a version....probably is their song.
Jodie waited in a long line to get ice cream for her and I; I took Eric to find a snow cone.
It was a good day at the fair!
Monday, August 20, 2007
Sunday, August 19, 2007
Sunday Afternoon at Walmart...
Lot's of other people must feel the same way, because it is always so crowded!
Jodie and I take our scooters. E pushes the shopping cart. We are like a train.
If you have gone to Walmart, you know that certain areas of the store are very crowded, and other areas are very open.
Most of the grocery aisles are very crowded. Jodie is usually in the lead, E in the middle, and I am behind. I try to stay as much out of the way of other people as I can. I am timid. Jodie is bolder -- she has all the rights to be there as anyone else.
Jodie is right, of course. But I get antsy when people are behind us, wanting to get around us, but they can't. My inclination is to do everything I can to get out of the way. Jodie does not care -- she is there and they can wait.
Some people get mad and start cussing. Some people wait patiently. Some people push and shove their way through.
I always feel funny when someone wants to get an item, but we are blocking their way. I move ahead, or stay behind a bit so that we are not so close together. My favorite thing to do so that we are not too close together is to split off onto my own venture to go get something or look at something.
People have such razor thin patience anymore. I always wonder why people who are in a hurry go to Walmart. It's crowded --- the aisles, the checkout lines.
Even so, I hate to be in the way.
Saturday, August 11, 2007
I want one...
When is this coming to the States? How much?
Honda Worldwide | 4-Wheel Scooters
Trying out the scooters
While we were there, Jemal let us test ride some scooters. We found one for Jodie to test ride. Jemal had E try it. I teased "He doesn't have his license yet." Jodie was siting in the van. I had E drive it out to her. Jodie rides her scooter to work, a mile away, every day. This bad boy would get her there in style. Jodie did not like the height or the feel of it, but it would be priceless to see her support staff watch their office manager riding in on this chopper of a scooter.
I drove it back in the showroom....it had a lot of power!
Jodie and I test drove a couple scooters. We are not quite ready to buy. Our two Pride Victory's are getting worn, and in the shop more and more. Jemal let E ride a power chair...he had way too much fun with that!
Later in the day we went to a cruise in of old cars in Gresham. The were raffling three scooters, the non-mobility types. One was decorated for the U of Oregon Ducks, one for the Oregon State Beavers, and one was plain.
E won the plain one! We could not believe it! We are now proud owners of a "Vega" scooter!
Thank you Jemal for your kindness!
Thank you Gresham's Rockin' Around the Block for such a great prize!
A good day...
Friday, August 10, 2007
China's disabled children are sold into slavery as beggars | World | The Observer
China's disabled children are sold into slavery as beggars | World | The Observer
That could have been me...had I been born on the other side of the world.
Prayers....please...
Beautiful lady -- inside out
Eva Longoria Blog News: Eva Longoria Opening School For Disabled Children
I played chess, did computers, Spanish club. Finding activities that I could do with non-disabled kids where my cerebral palsy did not get in the way was so important to myself esteem.
God bless you Eva...
Thursday, August 09, 2007
New Talllest Building - Burj Dubai
Burj Dubai Official Website
The website is gorgeous! As a rookie designer wannabe, I find this impressive. The music is a bit annoying.
66 elevators...10,000 tons of cooling per hour...250,000 gallons water per day...20 mph elevators...
Tuesday, August 07, 2007
U.S. Disabled Alpine Ski Team...
U.S. Disabled Alpine Ski Team Runs Gates and Wickets at Mt. Hood :: First Tracks!! Online Ski Magazine :: The ski and snowboard world at your keyboard
Jodie use to ski with a "ski bra" that kept her skis apart. She's told me the story of calling out to her partner "My bra is slipping!"
I was on skis once at Laurelhurst park. Snow was on the ground in Portland, so it was a good place for a first lesson. Unfortunately, I dislocated my knee a few days later and could not continue the lessons.
Sunday, August 05, 2007
Blind golfer....
Blind golfer Suleiman Rifai goes to the driving range. | Tours & News | Golf.com
Determined teacher and student.
Disabled enough for a disabled parking placard?
One night we went to Red Robin for dinner. There was nowhere to park; we were considering going elsewhere. A parking attendant -- I think that was his job -- saw us searching. He directed us to park along a curb by the dumpster. He explained to us that in California that if you have a disabled placard that you can park along any colored curb except for red. He told us that a few years ago that he was hit by a car and that he was layed-up for months, only recently landing his current job.
When we went places with family we were staying with while our car was getting fixed, we brought our disabled placard. Cindy told us that the disabled placards were a hot issue down there because so many people had them, and they perception was that any of the people who had them were not disabled, but were cheating to get the parking advantage.
The issue is causing a lot of rage in California, as in this blog entry. 1 in 16 Californians have the disabled placard...that seems like a huge amount!
Sacramento Bee columnist Anita Creamer inspired this blog entry with her August 3 column (registration required - sorry). The issue is people with non visible disabilities (like back problems) having to explain to non-disabled people who want to know why they are using a disabled placard with no apparent disability.
I feel sorry for people with invisible disability. My cerebral palsy is very obvious; nobody ever questions whether I am disabled. I have also had disk pain...that can be debilitating.
When I am in the car and drive up to disabled spot, I have has people watch me until I get out of the car, as if they want to make sure I am disabled. They watch me until I get out of the car and start walking. Our new Sprinter van has a rear lift that you can see through then rear windows, and our last van had a rear outside lift, so people usually get a clue from that that I am disabled.
Sometimes it seems that the elderly feel that the spots should be reserved for them. I get looks from disabled drivers searching for a spot and I am about to get out of the car.
I don't spend time worrying about disabled parking cheaters. I always figure they must have a reason. I have no time for a witch hunt.
I did find humor one time years ago at Beaverton Mall. Two handicapped parking spots. One of the vehicles was a very small sports car, and the other was a pickup that was jacked up 5 feet off the ground. It seemed humorous to me, as I wondered how a disabled person could get into either vehicle.
I do get frustrated when I go to WalMart and cannot find a disabled spot to park in. It is not really for a lack of disabled spots -- they have a ton of them. They are just always full!
Before Jodie and I got together, I did not have a disabled card. I didn't really want one. I could walk. I never wanted to take a disabled spot from someone who might be worse off than I.
With Jodie, and a few more challenges myself, I now regularly use the disabled spots.
Maybe someday there will be a disability rating system. Different colored cards for the more severely disabled, matched to the best parking spots.
What a fun witch hunt that would create!
Workers needed...Malaysia looks to the disabled
"Under-employed resources need to be actively investigated and developed for inclusion into the workforce, especially as Malaysia has a relatively small workforce. These include jobless youths, women, part-timers, older workers and the disabled. "
Expert views on how to mitigate talent shortage in Malaysia
Wednesday, August 01, 2007
New online disablity community coming
Disaboom - - About Us
Being disabled is not tragic, but it is always a new challenge.
On our recent trip we discovered a variety of accessibility when it comes to hotel rooms. Jodie needs bars to get in and out of the tub. Some places have it, others don't. We probably won't be traveling for awhile, but when we do, we would like to find something to take with us that would help Jodie get into any shower we end up at.
Is there a portable bar system?
Disaboom might help with that kind of information.
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Back Home
We got the call late Thursday that out car was ready. Our host drove us down to Studio City to get our car on Friday morning and we were off.
We made it home to Gresham, Oregon by Saturday night.
I will remember this trip with fondness. Two disabled adults, Jodie and I, took our son to Disneyland, a thousand miles away.
We ran into trouble. Accidents are no fun. The security and parking people at Universal were not nice to us.
Jodie was in tears on the phone to Triple A. The lady on the phone said everything would be okay. The tow truck guy said we would be okay. The mechanic said we were in good hands. We spent a week getting to know family better in Santa Clarita better. Jodie made the dozens of phone calls.
E saw that bad things can happen, but you get through them.
Asking for help is a part of life.
Thank God for good people in this world who answer the call for help.
Sunday, July 22, 2007
Back to Universal
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Nightmare at Universal
We were hit as I began to turn.
Security and parking attendants came over to check things out. When they saw me and my brand of cerebral palsy, I was not taken very serious. I asked Jodie to get out to help with communication. We were not taken real serious.
We called our insurance guy to coach us through the process. He was so helpful. We exchanged all the information.
Our van did not look very damaged. We went to leave. The van was making a screeching noise. Security came back. He directed us to a turn around street. He wanted us to try to park in the lot, but I did not feel safe doing so. Later an attendant drove up in a golf cart and yelled at us to move our car into the lot and we just shrugged.
We called AAA. The first towtruck was too small. He radiod for a flatbed. The flatbed came. The concern was our height added to his and making it through the under passes. He was really nice. Jodie could not get into the truck. She and I rode in our van on top of the flatbed. He took us to Studio City Automotive.
The owner, Ed, was super nice. He could sense that Jodie and I were a wreck. E was amazingly cool. Ed assured us that he would take care of us, and he did.
Our front suspension is broke. The owner got us a room at the Hollywood Hilton. The next day we found out our car would not be ready until Monday.
We are staying with relatives in Santa Clarita. She and her boyfriend have a wonderful house and treated us well.
Disneyland was wonderful...
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
Motel California
Where's the diesel?
Saturday, July 14, 2007
Our Big Rig.....
We bought the van 2 weeks ago from the wonderful folks at Access Mobility Systems in Edmonds, WA. We have a full ADA compliant lift, and we can fit both scooters inside. It handles well for being so big, and it is nice not to be hauling one scooter inside and one outside...with our tail dragging.
Jet White has presented some challenges. It is a diesel. I wanted to get the oil changed, so I went to our local Oil Can Henry's to see if they could change our oil. We have been going there for years and they have been really nice to us. The manager came out and told me they could change the oil for us, but they don't carry the filter. He said that if we bought our own filter, they could change our oil.
I went to Thrifty Auto, a auto supply store near work at lunch to get the oil filter and an air filter. 2006 Dodge Sprinter 2400 turbo diesel. The had the air filter, It was not in stock, but they ordered one for me to pick up the next day. I picked up the oil filter the next day. E and I went to Oil Can Henry's after work. It was the wrong king of oil filter and the air filter was way too small.
I get flustered at this point. My cerebral palsy affects my speech in such a way that I can communicate well with people who know me, but with people who don't know me it is difficult because they are apprehensive of me, and I get nervous, making it harder for me to speak and be understood.
The lady at Thrifty Auto seemed to understand me when I explained what kind of van I had. The guy I encountered the next day was not quite as nice. I gave him the receipt I had and said I was back to pick up a oil filter. He came back with a air filter. No, I need an oil filter. He seemed a bit flustered, but he looked again and came back with a cannister oil filter.
Oil Can Henry's changed our oil, but said that we needed a cartridge oil filter, instead of the cannister.
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
More on disability models...
BBC - Ouch! Disability Magazine - Weblog - Disability Models Continued
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Social model of disability - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
I have not taken time until now to really study disability issues until now with this blog.
I have been coming across these two models of disability.
Social model of disability VS. Medical model of disability
There is value in each model, but the social model seems to me to be the glass is half full model, versus the glass half empty medical model.
The social model focuses on removing barriers so that the disabled can more fully participate in life. Everybody shares the weight of disability.
The medical model puts the weight of disability on the disabled individual and their doctor(s). Finding a cure, making life easier with medicine or adaptive equipment.
As with most other issues, I see both sides. I would love it if a cure came along someday that would take my cerebral palsy away.
In the meantime, I like having barriers removed for me - my disabled parking, the button that opens the door for me at work, etc..
Sunday, July 08, 2007
Women's and Gender Studies Blog: Helen Keller
Here is a great bio in a nutshell:
Women's and Gender Studies Blog: Helen Keller
I love her quotes.
Teacher aide with life experience...
A teacher's aide with Down Syndrome.
The Times-Tribune - Teaching by example
I did it....you can do it too.
Such a beautiful role model.
9-year-old with cerebral palsy and her 1,200 lb. pet
Postbulletin.com: 9-year-old with cerebral palsy shows what she's made of - Fri, Jul 6, 2007
Kiwi rower...
TV3 > News > News Display
Gait Analysis
Motion Analysis Helps Teen With Cerebral Palsy Regain Ability To Walk
Thursday, July 05, 2007
: : Darius Goes West - The Movie : :
: : Darius Goes West - The Movie : :
Per Debbie Schlussel's blog, MTV turned Darius down. Very sad to turn down such courage and exuberance for life.
Jodie is a huge Jerry Lewis fan. Our TV is on from its start through it's entirety. MD is not our disability, but many of the challenges we face are the same.
Kids like Darius are braver than we are. We have old age to look forward to; Darius does not.
Live on Darius!
To the dogs...
Pretty cool...but a dog smart enough to know a PIN...might they be smart enough to take the money and run?
Wanna Know: Dogs Can Get Money From Cash Machines (ATM) For Disabled Peoples
Tuesday, July 03, 2007
Denied Service for using her feet
She is driving with her feet; her ability to use her feet as her hands should have been obvious.
WHEELIE CATHOLIC: Illinois woman sues McDonald's after being denied service due to disability
Sunday, July 01, 2007
Where they stand....
The Roving Activist’s Blog » Blog Archive » Candidates’ answers to our questions
A dreamer, a governor, and a lawyer...
I like what the dreamer said...
Name the Big White Rig
We got the white 2006 Dodge Sprinter, which is really a Mercedes Benz. We have a Benz!!
Bill Scott and the rest of the team at Access Mobility Systems are very first class.
Stepdad John drove it home for us. I want to drive it locally to get use to it.
The lift is so quiet! Bill said a good lift does not make noise.
I drove it last night. It is so big, a different driving experience. It is a diesel. I know I will get use to it.
Getting into it is a bit of a challenge. Jodie is using a stepstool for now.
What should we name it?
The Wittren Mobile....Big Rig....Big White Hope....
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
New hope for CP
"In the study of 208 babies, only 44% who received cooling died or developed a disability, compared with 62% of those who received normal care. 'This is the most promising treatment we have today,' says study author Seetha Shankaran, MD, of Wayne State University, Children's Hospital of Michigan. "
happy birthday helen keller...
"Helen Keller said, 'I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and noble.'"
More quotes from Helen Keller.
Cost of War
Economist's View: The Long-Term Costs of the War in Iraq:
Disability in TOL Moldova
Moldova is a country in Eastern Europe by Romania.
This article is an interesting insight into the challenge of bringing accessibility to a young democracy (independent since 1991).
Lack of funds translates to lack of accessibility.
A plea for bus manufacturers and building landlords to bring about accessibility as they can. Do the right thing without laws to force the issue.
I think of my disabled parking spot at work, and the button I push that opens the door. I feel spoiled.
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
Idiots in New Jersey not allowed to vote...
"New Jersey may put on the November ballot an amendment to the state's Constitution to replace language forbidding an "idiot or insane person" to vote. Advocates for the disabled want those words removed but worry that replacement language is so vague it could be unfairly restrictive. They want to allow people to vote if they can supply information for a voter registration form."
Domnijoe Pets and Art - I guess it's the Insane people who get bastards like this politician into office....
Cerebral Palsy: Hope Through Research: National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke (NINDS)
800,000 adults and children in the U.S. somehow affected by CP
10,000 babies each year will develop CP
Cerebral Palsy: Hope Through Research: National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke (NINDS)
This one surprises me: The percentage of babie who will develop CP has remained the same over the last 30 years.
You would think with all the medical advances, the incidence of CP would have gone down.
The Connecticut Post Online - Local TV show profiles disabled
The Connecticut Post Online - Local TV show profiles disabled
I think it is a wonderful idea for the public to get an idea of what the disabled go through on a normal basis.
Education and understanding goes a long ways toward breaking down the walls.
Monday, June 25, 2007
Running the slides at church...
It seems like a simple task...and, it is. Just hit the space bar to advance the slide, or click on the right slide.
But, with a CP brain such as mine, it can be a challenge.
Some verses to praise songs can be sung two or three times. Hit space bar, screen advances, but the last verse is being sung again. The external mouse, if it is hooked up, is too small for me to handle with any kind of accuracy.
I have learned to use the arrow and 'enter' keys to get to the right screen. But yesterday, I kept getting confused.
I am a tech geek. I am the one who built and maintains the church's website. I should not get confused by a computer slide show...but I do.
I arrow down to the right slide, then I hit 'enter'. All is well.
I keep hitting the space bar to advance the slides. All is well, until a slide is repeated and I have already advanced the slide.
I have to start thinking about what I am doing; that is where my trouble begins.
The highlighted line is the slide that appears overhead, but the slide that appears on the computer is the one after the highlighted line. And, since I had been using the space bar for a while, the line where I last used the arrow keys is still highlighted.
So, I advance the slide too far and I need to go back. I hit 'enter'. Instead of being at the slide I want to be at, I am three songs back where I last used the mouse.
I want to chuckle at myself, but people are looking at me. Any misstep at the computer and dozens of eyes look your way.
The screen where the slides appear use to be easy to see whether people were standing or seated. A couple weeks ago we were all surprised when we entered the sanctuary and all the pews were turned 90 degrees. It was hilarious -- all of us trying to find our regular seats -- that weren't their anymore.
The projector and screen have not been moved. It really could not be done easily. Most people get tired of craning their necks to see the screen. They follow the songs as printed in the bulletin instead of following the slides on the screen.
Only a handful of people, including my dear Jodie, are following the slides on the screen.
I am having a CP moment, doing the simplest service duty -- pushing buttons. I want to laugh, I want to cry.
But I don't. People are looking.
I hope God finds something easier for me to do in heaven.
Sunday, June 24, 2007
Team Effort
The Tribune - News
Norma is blind and Vicki is paraplegic. Change it around. Vicki can see and Norma can walk.
Together they can take in and enjoy the Greely Independence Stampede.
At Holladay Center, a school for the disabled that I attended as a child, I was enlisted to push a wheelchair when my class went on field trips. The wheelchair served as an aide in my walking, and I served as an extra ambulatory body to help a classmate in a chair get around.
And....being needed and useful is wonderful therapy.
Robot Legs
Robot Could Help Disabled to ‘Walk’ - Axistive.com - Assistive Technology News Website - Robot Could Help Disabled to ‘Walk’ - Assistive Technologies and Assistive Devices for people with a disability:
One possible advantage could be height. When I am in my scooter, people don't see me because I am below eye level. When I walk, people cut me off because I am slow. Maybe, with fast robotic legs, people would see me and I could cut them off?
I'm dreaming again...
Saturday, June 23, 2007
Crip Chronicles: Disability Identity
Crip Chronicles: Disability Identity
I don't consider my disability as the main part of my identity, but I know that people who don't really know me do.
When I meet someone for the first time, I know that my cerebral palsy is what they see first. Usually after a brief conversation, people realize that the cp affects my body and not my brain, but sometimes they don't.
Sometimes it matters to me what people think of me, sometimes it doesn't. It depends whether I am only dealing with someone in passing, or if I will be working with or dealing with a person for awhile.
What bothers me is that people like to portray me as being really good at whatever to makeup for my disability, as if they balance each other out.
I'm not too hard on people for this tendency. The checking out of each other probably goes beyond disability.
And then there is the issue of disabled people checking each other out. What set of disabilities does that person deal with? Do they have a better way of doing things than I do? We can be way more critical of each other than the non-disabled are to us.
Okay...so I need more self-esteem.
Union Leader - Church dismissal has mixed reactions - Sunday, Jun. 24, 2007
Union Leader - Church dismissal has mixed reactions - Sunday, Jun. 24, 2007
Friday, June 22, 2007
Our Ride
As a kid I rarely ever used a wheelchair. Sometimes when my family would go to a zoo or a theme park they would rent a wheelchair for me because I didn't have the endurance or speed that the rest of my family had.
Jodie use to free walk around the house when we first got married.
Age does something to all of us. I had back surgery for a herniated disk back in 2001. I used a walker in my coming back after the surgery. Jodie and I have both lost the endurance on our feet that we once had.
With our son, Jodie and I decided that we wanted to keep up with all our son's activities. It was time for us to get scooters.
Our doctor wrote a prescription for me to get a scooter. In order for insurance to help us in getting a scooter, we had to prove that I could use the scooter in our house. It seemed funny to us that they were not interested in helping us become more mobile outside the home.
So it was after we got the scooter and it came time to get my scooter in our Chrysler Voyager minivan, insurance had no interest in helping us accessorize our minivan so that we could transport my scooter.
We tried a metal ramp. It was very heavy for me to handle. I fought with it and was able to get my scooter in the back of out minivan a couple times.
A day came when I was running the scooter up the ramp into our minivan at home. The front tire of the scooter went over the side of the ramp. I had to call Uncle Randy to rescue me.
We started looking for a lift for our minivan. We found a used Braun lift for about $1100. It looks something like this.
When we got Jodie's scooter awhile later, we had to get a second lift. With out son, we had to hang onto a back seat. I don't know if both scooters would fit in the back with no seats...but regardless, we had to have a seat.
The only other option was to get a second lift for the back of the car, outside. We found a Silver Star Lift for $1600.
I will try to get pictures of out current van to post in the next couple days.
This setup has gotten us by for the last five years or so. We don't always haul both scooters together. We do haul them both on the weekends when we do stuff as a family. Our vehicle seems to handle the weight, but I think it has been hard on the transmission (it has been in the shop for that a few times), and the breaks have had excessive wear.
With Jodie's scooter riding outside the van, and all the wonderful rain that we get here in the Northwest, we have had to carry a towel with us when it rains. I know, we should have invested in a cover for her scooter. I never knew how we would secure the cover, and, well, we never really looked into getting one.
See, our outside lift swings away from the hitch so that we can open the back hatch of the van. A metal bar extends about six inches from the hitch; it supports the lift swings closed. When I load my scooter in and out of our minivan, my scooter hits the hitch that holds our outside lift.
We have been looking off and on for the last year for a rig that we could get both scooters inside. We found a full-size van with a side lift. The salesman said we could get both scooters inside. I rode my scooter up and into the van. There was no room to get both scooters in there and for Jodie and I to maneuver around them to get to the front seat.
After doing a lot of googling, I became very interested in the Dodge Sprinters, and I found a place in Edmunds, Washington that sells them accessorized for the disabled -- Access Mobility Systems. Jodie, E and I made the 200 mile drive up there a week ago.
The Sprinter was very nice, and it had plenty of room for both scooters. We were interested in the 2006 Sprinter that they had. We filled out a credit application...and...well...
Disability Studies, Temple U.: Perfect Ain't Cool
Disability Studies, Temple U.: Perfect Ain't Cool
My greatest fault is being a perfectionist. My body does not follow along. And lately, I wonder if my clear thinking has been affected by my meds. A usual problem at work has become seemingly unsolvable. The people who usually help me keep tossing policy at me. The issue is not getting solved and I have been getting stressed!
COOL AIN'T PERFECT
PERFECT AIN'T COOL!
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
I can't believe this...
Union Leader - Church asks mom, disabled child, to leave - Wednesday, Jun. 20, 2007
People were loudly singing and praising God. So was Teagan.
My church welcomes all the kids with all their noises. During sermon and prayer time, kids who are having difficulty keeping quiet are taken out of the sanctuary by their parents...but this was not a quiet time!
God bless you Teagan!
Christians, wake up from your coma and remember what it's all about.!
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
Media and the disabled...
Poynter Online - How the News Media
Handicap Those with Disabilities
Feel-good stories are nice. A disabled person overcomes the odds.
But why must the story be about overcoming the odds? I like the last line: "Tell a story "less (about) overcoming and more (about) 'just being.' "
I was the subject of three media stories when I was in junior high school.
I wrote a article when I was in the 8th grade titled "Life Through My Eyes."' I told about my life as a person with cerebral palsy. I haven't seen the article in such a long time -- that's nearly 30 years ago -- I just remember I told my story and the article was first in my school paper, then we re-published in a local medical journal.
The local newspaper, The Oregonian, did a article about me shortly after that, the impetus for that article being the article I had written. It was a feel good article, but it was not over done. It gave people a better picture of me.
The other story that was done of my was a pure puff piece of the new adaptive P.E. class I was in. It was on local tv news. For the camera I was put through a maze of activity. I was offended because most days adaptive p.e. was volunteer moms tossing a nerf ball at us, but for the camera I did activities I had never done before and never did again. Pure PR and I was the prop.
I don't mind being part of a story about me where I am the story (the real me), but I don't want to be a "feel-good" about another disabled guy who gets up in the morning.
Addicted to rock n rolll
I listen to my Zune all day long at work. Nearly 3000 songs. I am totally addicted to it....gets me through my long day at the desk.
Where is my disability check?
Sunday, June 17, 2007
Wii helps child with cerebal palsy have some fun with sibling...
Go Nintendo » Blog Archive » Wii helps child with cerebal palsy have some fun with sibling- What are you waiting for?
Might have to see if my son would part with some of his money so I (cp dad) could play baseball with him...
Pay our housing....or self immolation?
So, what is "self-immolation"? Suicide by fire is what I found.
Kunduz is a city in NE Afghanistan.
Disabled vets are angry that their commanders are living the life of luxury, while they have no place to live. Vets here in the States often don't get the treatment and benefits they need, but threatening to set themselves on fire is not something I see happening.
Different culture? Greater desperation?
Saturday, June 16, 2007
God bless Job...
Neighbors laughed and taunted the child. Doctors and teachers have found him to be highly intelligent.
Headlines | Boy born limbless has defied odds
He lies on his stomach and holds a pencil in his mouth to write. He's only been in school for two months and he can write his name.
I am happy to see that the education office wants to send Jobs teachers for training in special ed:
'"We also feel the learning environment should be barrier-free, friendly to accommodate his special needs and he should be trained on activities of daily living to make him self-reliant," says Kemboi.'
"You're so inspirational..." Those words make me cringe. I've had to fight against prejudices and barriers with my cerebral palsy to get where I have gotten in life. I work with what abilities I have, to get as far as I can. The love and mercy of family, friends and strangers help me along. Anybody would do that. What is inspirational about that?
Job, a six year old boy with no arms or legs in a peasant family in Kenya. Writing and drawing with his mouth. Knocking a soccer ball around.
The parents could have written him off as a problem, but they had the faith to name him Job.
That inspires me.
Thursday, June 14, 2007
One in Seven
One in seven in the UK are disabled. A source I found (CODI) says one in five Americans are disabled.
I find strength in knowing I am not alone.
Lady Bracknell says:
"We are not brave. We are not special. We are not tragic. We are not heroic. We are not “an inspiration”. We are not the Bogey Man. We are not objects of pity. And we are not the living embodiment of our impairments..."
Some days I would prefer to hide away, rather than out in the world trying so hard to be who everyone thinks I should be --- smart, cheerful, not complaining. Probably more my own attempt at perfection than my attempt to overcome my disability...or are the two the same thing?
Then shall the lame man leap like a deer
Matthias Media Briefing Web Extras: Then shall the lame man leap like a deer
I don't think my disability is a result of sin. If God wanted to exact the price of sin from us, we would all be dead.
I have always gained strength from the way Moses pleaded with God regarding his poor speaking ability. God says, "Hey, I made your mouth." We are not disabled in God's eyes; He made us!
We do live in a fallen world. I think the imperfection in all of us attests to that. My cerebral palsy does not make me any more imperfect than anyone else. His grace is sufficient for each of us.
God does not look at how perfect or imperfect we are; He looks at our heart to see if we are trying to become like Jesus.
God is bringing His creation to order, one heart at a time.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
Pray for the Disabled in North Korea
Disabled in North Korea Confined to Homes, Expelled From Capital
Families expelled from Pyongyang for having a disabled child. This is the most extreme treatment I have found in my searching around the internet.
In South Korea, employment is very hard to find for the disabled, according to the article, but they don't face the ridicule and mistreatment that those in North Korea do.
When I attended Oregon State University 20 years ago, a friend of mine who worked at the ESL center coaxed me to be a conversant with a student who was trying to pick up the English language. I met with a guy from South Korea a couple times a week. He was a super guy. I remember he had all these hard science classes, but his most difficult class was writing 121.
I remember he had a desire to help change things back at home. I remember worrying about my speech impediment, whether my English would help him. It never bothered him. He seemed to be as interested in figuring me out as I was in figuring him out.
I may have been the first disabled person he ever got to know.
Kudo's to Walgreen's
The State | 06/14/2007 | Walgreens makes special effort
A wonderful way to step up!
Yachting
Craig was from Virginia and had cerebral palsy like myself. Bob was deaf and very athletic. We got to go sailing at Tom's Cove, a large area of water that averaged about 3 feet in depth.
Bob was doing the work. He handed me the thingy (rudder?) to hold as he worked the sails. I just had to hold it. I let go. I just remember Craig and I treading water in our life jackets, the three of us laughing, and Bob getting the sailboat upright and informing me that all I had to do was hold it.
Here's a couple of pros:
APP.COM - DISABLED SAILORS' DESTINATION: CHINA | Asbury Park Press Online
Trucker not charged...
Trucker Who Pushed Wheelchair Not Charged - News Story - KPTV Portland
So, there really is a Paw Paw, Michigan?
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
More disability awareness from Down Under
Scope: See the person, not the disability - Adpunch
I wonder if there is any such awareness campaign here in the States?
Scope is an organization that provides services to the disabled in Victoria, AU.
End of the World
Casey Station Webcam - Australian Antarctic Division
30 more years...says Dr. Molly
There is a drug that people with my kind of cerebral palsy. Molly said that most people have a difficult time when they start taking it because of how sedating it is. If they get through that initial period, the drug works very well, but most people don't make it through the initial heavy sedation.
As for the pulmonary doctor's assessment of my scoliosis making my ribs cave in on me and putting my in great pain in about ten years (when I'm in my 50's), Molly said that I am so active that I should not need to worry about that happening to me until I am in my 70's.
I suppose nobody really knows, but I am going with Dr. Molly on this one.
Sunday, June 10, 2007
Accessibly sub ride at Disneyland'
AP Wire | 06/10/2007 | Disneyland's redesigned sub ride accommodates disabled guests
This accommodation is interesting in that the submarine is still not physically accessible to the physically disabled, but they went to great pains to photograph the entire submarine experience in high def and to show int in a theater that looks like and observation post.
We are going to try to take E down to Disneyland this summer. It is nice to know that they have accessibility high on their priority list.
Disability Awareness from Down Under
Saturday, June 09, 2007
In ten years...
The Dr. looked at my spine to check out my scoliosis. I have always had scoliosis. My main disability is cerebral palsy. I know that my spine has a 'S' curve, but I have never had pain from it.
She was surprised that I have only recently begun taking a muscle relaxant. I also told her about the nsaid pain releaver I have been taking. She was not knowledgeable about that drug. She said to talk to Dr. Molly about that one.
The dr. thinks that my chest pain stems from a combination of my scoliosis pressing in on my insides and my muscle spasms from my cerebral palsy. She said that if the combination of medicine I am taking works, to keep taking them. I think she called it therapeutic treatment.
She seemed somewhat surprised that I was not in more pain. The Dr. told me that in ten years, with the curvature of my spine, my ribs will be digging into my lungs, that I will be in pain, and that I might require oxygen.
The good Dr. watched me walk, then commented how they way I hold my body, leaning to the right, is bad for me. I will try to posture myself better. She mentioned using braces. I used them as a kid. They were so restricting, and not corrective. A day may come when I need them, but until then I like my freedom.
Sobering words. Hard to know if it will happen that way. Is it statistically possible or probable that it will happen, based on information from a medical website, or is it really going to happen?
Jodie and I went to the car. I said, "You know, we ought to raise H for the next ten years before our disabilities get worse and we can't." She reminded me that doctors never thought we would make it as far as we have. She also agreed that we should do all we can before we lose the abilities that we have.
I suppose a doctor's duty is to tell us the truth as they see it. On the surface it seems like poor bedside manner. Ten minutes is not enough time for that.
I'm not going to worry about ten years from now.
Thursday, June 07, 2007
I want a ride!
Truck takes man in wheelchair on a wild ride - CNN.com
Too bad he spilled is pop...
Wednesday, June 06, 2007
Richard III, with Disabled Actor as Star, Begins July 11 (BroadwayWorld.com)
Richard III, with Disabled Actor as Star, Begins July 11 (BroadwayWorld.com)
Henry Holden is an actor you uses crutches for his mobility. Richard III was physically deformed, and it the 1400's that was enough to mark him as being evil.
Jodie and I were both irritated when we found out that Laura Innes, who plays the part of a doctor who uses crutches, really is not disabled. She does not use crutches in real life. We always felt that there had to be actors out there who were truly disabled who could play the part of a disabled doctor without pretending to be disabled.
Henry Holden is part of a group called DIME, Disability in Media Everywhere, is a group that promotes the presence of the disabled in mass media.
Stipend for Undergrads - Malaysia
Daily Express, Sabah, Malaysia -- News Headlines
Only verification of disability is required.
300RM - I did the conversion and got $87.71. Does not seem a lot. Maybe that would go further there than it would in the States.
The gesture is wonderful!
Saturday, June 02, 2007
No Straws, No Lids
Jodie and I wanted some soda's. We had E go buy us some. He came back with two large Pepsi's. E told us they had no lids and no straws.
Everyone who knows me knows that I use a straw for all of my drinks. My hands are shaky due to my disability, cerebral palsy. I drink everything from coffee to beer (when I drank beer) with a straw. Some waitresses still warn me that the coffee might be too hot to use a straw with it, but most seem to know that if I am asking for a straw, I know what to do with it.
At times I have Jodie or someone else who knows me help me drink when we can't get a straw. With the quart-size paper cup full of Pepsi, though, this would have been impossible.
My sister-in-law did some scouting around and found the slirpy vendor who said she could get us an extra slirpy straw, you know, the kind with a spoon at the end. This crisis was solved.
We have come up against this before, I think at a fair, where they had no straws. I did some googling to find out possible reasons as to why some venues are not offering straws and lids anymore.
-straws and lids are not recyclable per several websites I found.
-straws are not given out at zoos because they are a danger to wildlife. The Oregon Zoo has this no straw policy.
-one site suggested that straws are not allowed in ballparks because they might be used as spit-wod shooters.
-another site suggests that straws could present a choking hazard to young children because of a chance that a piece of crushed is could come through the straw and lodge in there throat.
My money as to why Volcanoes Stadium has a no straw, no lid policy is because they are not recyclable.
It would be nice for places who have a no straw policy to have a stash of a couple for people who really need them, but I don't think it is practical for them to worry about that.
I need to find a way to carry straws with me. They get too mangled when I put them in my pocket.
I use to carry a couple straws on me inside of a travel toothbrush container, but sometimes the straw got crumpled inside and were not usable when I needed them.
I've often thought that I need a man purse! Just a small bag to carry around that I could stow a couple straws, maybe some real silverware for those times that the flimsy plastic kind is all that is available.
Murphy's Law usually applies. I have gone places where I thought a drink would be offered, so I grab a straw from the small bag of them that I keep in the car. I go in, a drink is not offered, so I stuff the straw as discreetly as I can into my pocket. And vice versa, I go in someplace and a drink is offered and I need too ask if they have straws. People usually either don't have straws, or if they do, they are burried somewhere. I get embarassed and unomfortable when people need to go on a treasure hunt just to accomodate me!
A man purse, or a pocketable durable straw that I could use in a pinch. I will need to do more googling!
